四招教你如何和难相处的人打交道-北京东方实用英语学院

　　We all have difficult people in our lives. You know—the ones you dread talking to; the ones you try to avoid at all costs. They may be your ex-spouse, a co-worker, or a family member; they may be a bully, a control freak, passive-aggressive or someone who loves to play the role of victim.

　　人的一生中，难免会遇见一些很难打交道的人。你知道的，就是那种你竭尽所能想要避开的人。他们也许是你的前妻/夫、同事，亲戚，可能是专爱欺负别人的人、控制狂、消极对待者、或者受害妄想症经验丰富患者。

　　So, how do we deal with these people? How can we work together productively, whether in a parenting, a working, or a family relationship?

　　那么，我们该如何跟这种人打交道呢?要怎样做，才能顺利地和他们共事、共同维护家庭、工作或保持良好的亲戚关系呢?

　　Here are a few secrets to being able to keep your cool when dealing with that difficult person in your life:

　　以下几个小秘密，能帮助你在面对这类人时保持淡定。

　　1. Know Your Triggers

　　知道自己的底线

　　Self-knowledge is powerful.

　　自知之明是强大的武器。

　　We all have subjects and idiosyncrasies that push our buttons, and I can almost guarantee that the difficult person in your life knows what those are—but do you? Spend some time exploring what really ticks you off. Is it when somebody talks about politics, money, or your family? Is it when your ex takes your kids to McDonald’s 3 days in a row?

　　每个人都有自己的底线，它们会被特定的事物引爆。我可以确信地告诉你，那些你较讨厌的人，往往熟知你的底线在哪里。那么你呢?你知道吗?花点时间好好想想吧，找出那些容易让你暴躁的事物来。比如，是不是一旦有人谈论起政治、或金钱、或你的家庭，你就开始不爽?或者是不是一想起你的前任连着三天用麦当劳打发孩子，你就暴躁了?

　　Once you have your list of those trigger buttons, you are ready to arm yourself. Create a plan. What will you do when the conversation steers dangerously close to one of your buttons?

　　一旦熟知自己的底线，那你就变得无坚不摧。列一个应对计划——比如，当谈话开始渐渐转移到你较讨厌的东西上时，该怎么应对?

　　You can practice deep breathing, take a short time-out, walk away from the conversation, or any combination of the three. Whatever allows you to center yourself and regain your focus onthe purpose of the conversation will work.

　　你可以试着深呼吸、或出门散散步、或直接起身，远离这个话题;或者你可以把这三件事一块儿做了。无论怎么应对，只要能让你把注意力转移回自己身上、并巩固你对该谈话的控制权的方法，就是好方法。

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